Comments on My Girlfriend is an Escort: My Guide to Dating an Escort (An Introduction)

I would love to talk to someone about this. My new...

2011-04-26T15:59:53.418-07:00

I would love to talk to someone about this. My new g/f is an escort, and it took me totally by surprise - huge learning curve. Coming along but would REALLY like to interact with some people who are experiencing this same - phenomenon -

Jonah

Hi all thank you so much to the person that create...

2011-03-23T03:18:56.421-07:00

Hi all
thank you so much to the person that created this blog, and everyone that has put words of wisdom on the page. i have felt so alone over the last year, its not like you can tell your friends and family that the woman i love is an escort....!
as most people have said we have had fights every month over what she does for a living and the broken promises.
i have just ended my one year relationship with "D" due to her having 2 personalities and the way she treats me when we are not together and she is working, i love her more than i have ever loved anyone in my entire life, but i cant share her anymore, my feelings are too deep.
she always said she would stop and finally i asked her to stop... no i begged her to stop, but she wont, she says that she needs the money but i think she enjoys her job too much to stop, men are always commenting on her site about how amazing she is, don't get me wrong im disappointed that she still chooses to do this when i can give her anything she wants and more from financial stability to never ending love, lets face it being an escorts boyfriend for a year is not an easy thing!!
we broke up when she was on tour because she promised that she would not do any unprotected services, and i read a several reviews about her doing the things she said she wouldn't do, and she offered A levels too :(
i sent her an email explaining my disappointment in her and that i felt betrayed by her, this has undermined her respect for me and that i do not wish to hear from her or see her ever again. at first she took all the services off the sites but then added them back on and more...! i guess she has done this to either get at me or is it because she now feels she can as she is single what do you think?
we have had no communication since and this was 4 weeks ago, i miss her so much :(((
would really like some advice from both boyfriends of escorts and escorts alike on what you feel i should or shouldn't do now? i feel like im trapped between a rock and a hard place, she knows how i feel about her but i can do anything, as she wont compromise, this only leads me to think that she never loved me despite telling me she did regularly.
thanks for listening. Oigaib

This is a great site. The love of my life is an e...

2011-03-22T17:46:06.862-07:00

This is a great site. The love of my life is an escort. I knew she was an escort when we started dating (I was a client). We've known each other for maybe 5 years, and we've been dating seriously for about a year. I am just insanely madly in love with her, and I she definitely seems to feel the same way about me. There are a lot of complications in the relationship and I am often afraid we won't be able to get through them all. This site has a ton of great information. Thanks!

You should consider setting up some type of forum. It would be great to be able to have some kind of open discussion amongst other men and women in this type of relationship. One of the biggest issues I face is that I feel like I have nobody I can really talk to about the complications that we face, as only somebody else in a similar situation could really understand the complexities.

Hi, Fantastic site! My experience with escorts i...

2011-02-28T08:21:46.639-08:00

Hi,

Fantastic site!

My experience with escorts is slightly different, but just wanted to share it.

Basically, my ex fiance had a big boob job without telling me - not a great move from her i know. On such a petite and slim frame it gave her what can only be described as 'the porn look'.

She began going out with her friends at weekends, without me, wearing the sexiest clothes she could and met a guy who was an agent in the porn and escort industries who loved her look and wanted her to do modelling.

I requested for her not to see him anymore and she promised me she wouldnt, but as the truth came out after the relationship ended she carried on seeing him.

He paid for her to get an extensive set of nude and topless shots done (i didnt know about this as stated above), and unbeknown to me offered her the chance to escort foreign businessmen.

With my job requiring me to work nights she accepted the chance and began escorting. She seemed distant when i did see her and the truth was she was having regular escort work and had a secret bank account for her earnings.

Then work with one of her clients, a rich Russian businessman, became very regular and she began seeing him several times a week.

At this point she told me, and i believed her, that she had a sales job that meant she would be away at weekends quite alot in the early days.

The truth was he had given her access to an apartment he owned and she kept all of the vastly expensive gifts he had bought her there and it was at this point he was calling her his mistress.

She finally confessed everything to me when she came home in a brand new Range Rover Sport and admitted what had been happening and told me she was leaving me.

That was last year and the guy has left his wife and they are now togther and she no longer does the escorting (doesnt need to).

So my experience isnt so great with escorts!

My name is paris I live in scotland, I'm an ex...

2010-11-02T04:40:06.221-07:00

My name is paris I live in scotland, I'm an ex escort I met my ex partner through my work we fell in love he undestood my job and then the worst happened. His father passed away.he wanted a break and I sorted my self out, I gave it all up and everything to do with it. Then he dumped me three months later he d never felt the same about me when his father died and I believe he lead me on ..... What I'm trying to say is I don't thing any one in this game should date. And it should be kept a secret. It secretly eats away at both parties involved. Never be ashame of who you are or change for anyone. I lost everything because of my career. Its a dangerious game to play.as an ex escort I have seen many types of men and realise they are all similar in there ways. He couldn never forgive me for what I was ......when in the beggining he know all along the pro s and cons,letting me fall for him, and him walking away with a large lack of respect for me, escorts have two personalitys. Always make sure the work one doesn't over rule your personal one. I learnt the hard way.....

hello everyone my name is little fuck and im in a ...

2010-09-26T15:11:03.947-07:00

hello everyone my name is little fuck and im in a relationship with a escort she is the love of my life we met before she was doing this job she had a house cieaning busssness well let me tell u one thing that everything i thought i knew or was rasid with has to go out the window.
we have broke up so many time or she has with me.but i know i love her why im still here.i have tryed to stop loveing her to leave her behind.my heart says no.any way there are a lot of thing that can go miss understood or taken wrong by just see them and assumeing thing.i have made so many mistakes doing things i sould have not,said things also.i have to say this she is more of a real woman and has had my back and me hers.
poeple today wow how they change and fast.
let me say this i have learned so much about me and the men of today and the diff between love and sexs also how to see.
now i know the things i do if things dont work out i thank her makeing me a real man.
not the tricks of to day.once a trick allways a trick

Hello from Vegas. I am madly in love with my girl...

2010-09-13T04:29:37.968-07:00

Hello from Vegas.

I am madly in love with my girlfriend and love of my life Sarah. We have been both in love for 10 months. I am 36 years of age- good looking not terribly good looking. I was married for 10 years which my wife loved women and we have had amazing sex experieces throughout our 20 to early 30's. I don't call escorts and this was my first time. My friend owns a limo compnay here and was have a christmas party at some fancy bowling lanes. Sarah showed up and I instantly had an energy vibe with her that I didn't even want to have sex with her. I gave her 2000 we went to my room and told her that I wasn't expecting sex but just a good time and if the vibe is there we would roll with it. We had a great time. she stayed all night and it felt wonderful. We went to Mexico together Play Del Carmen and stayed a week. She paid for half. Since then we have never been apart- I love the fact that she is the best at what she does, enjoys it fucking hot guys in vegas a few times a month to make 3000 to 5000 a pop. We are very open minded and lover her unconditionally which besides my children have never felt that way. She is a butterfly that I enjoy not cage and we experience life together. It turns me on knowing that I to could have a great selection of woman but I only choose her. don't get me wrong everyone has a day. but is I or her are not in good place for the day then we back off and our needs come first. Don't under estimate the value of love.

Hey all, I am now dating an escort. I was her cli...

2010-05-17T18:18:15.230-07:00

Hey all,

I am now dating an escort. I was her client and we connected the first time we met. After seeing her 3 times, she invited me over to her house and we just hung out and watched TV. This past weekend I invited her over to watch some movies and have a little wine. Of course I was fully anticipating that we were going to hook up.

When she left my place I offered to pay her for her time, which is what I have done in the past. She declined and told me "our time is our time" and that it is not required. Actually I thought I offended her and I was really worried. She called me when she got home and asked why I offered to pay her. I told her I didn't want to assume anything. She was grateful I offered.

The next day she asked if she could see me and at first I was worried that I really screwed up or she had something heavy to tell me. Fortunately, she just wanted to see me again. We went to a bar that I like to hang out at we had pizza and drinks and ended up at my place.

I have the foresight to kind of see this coming, so I am determined to have fun, not fall too hard and just enjoy my time. She is a great person and the best sex I have ever had and I've had some pretty awesome sex.

She keeps telling me that she is addicted to me, and I feel the same about her.

We will see how things go...I will keep everyone updated. Good luck to everyone out there dating an escort or escorts dating a former client.

Wow, it does exist. Well, the advice here seems ge...

2010-05-16T18:19:50.856-07:00

Wow, it does exist. Well, the advice here seems genuine so let me ask for some.

Okay, met a girl on a call. Beautiful, fun, damn near perfect. For the sake of privacy, I'll call her N. Well by time I left from the 2nd call she was sending me messages like "4 real, u and i r great together". I've now been seeing her for a few months and a couple of days ago I took her to a range. She likes guns. The point is, I really like her. We have a lot of the same interests and standards. We're zodiac opposites (me being Aries, her a Libra). Only 6 months age difference. For a while I tried not seeing her and I couldn't. I don't know how she feels about me compared to her other clients but I know I wanna spend more time with her, on a personal level. Any advice?

Oh and I do know that she isn't just some prostitute who lets everyone stick it in her. As I said, she does have standards.

I'm really glad that you wrote this blog. Now,...

2010-04-13T07:55:13.218-07:00

I'm really glad that you wrote this blog. Now, I feel I am not alone. I always felt I was the only person ever to date an escort. I was with her for 3 years, and I wasn't a client of hers I was her "Driver". I drove her to and from dates so she didn't have to drive home drunk. Then she wanted to go home with me one day and it all started from there. I can probably write a book about this whole thing but to keep things short and to the point, We got married in Vegas. I totally agree with you, it takes a lot to be with an escort. I have learned a lot and I have been damaged a lot during the three years I was with her. Her job didn't bother me because I knew that thats what she has to do to survive plus she has two children she has to support, and she had two of the greatest children might I add. I should know, I lived with her lol. I have a question to ask you. Do you always get accused of being her pimp to the people that ask you what your girlfriend does?

hi guys, this is gonna be a real long post. First ...

2010-04-06T21:29:44.032-07:00

hi guys, this is gonna be a real long post. First off i want to say that this is great that this exist and im not the only one. I cant really talk about this friends cause frankly its a bit too embrassing. I met an escort 2 years older than me and immediately we felt a connection and exchanged numbers. People say im a pretty boy but im just too shy which is why i went there to begin with. Anyways i woudnt call it dating, but ive been seeing her for the past 2 months in MOntreal, she has gone back to her home in toronto for me. So shes still working here but she will go back soon. Its just so messed up. First of all shes not allowed to legally work here so i dont think she can just quit even if she wants to. I know she is truly in love with me and i want to also but i just dont see anything good coming from this. Shes also really reluctant to talk about her past since she is from abroad and is not Canadian. Any advice would be appreciated and if you want more details ill answer questions. Thanks alot

I also am dating an escort for the last two months...

2010-03-14T22:48:26.219-07:00

I also am dating an escort for the last two months. Ironically she is 1 million times better than any non hobbyist I've ever met. I was not a client but met her on a personal level. We debate much over her job....I try to get past the emotional ramifications of her laying with other men but I'm failing. I'm a very emotional yet traditional type of Guy. I don't want to lose her....any advice on dealing? She is going to school trying to get out of the hobby. I feel bad going to the internet for answers but it appears even my psych isn't equipped to deal with these circumstances either. We have tried various things...like making me aware of when and where her appointments happen...making me understand its business and there is no emotional connection. I wonder if our own intimacy suffers because of her ability to turn on or off feelings during sex. I don't have a hobbyists point of view here...I just need to find a happy medium because I really know she is my soulmate.

@gus/wpbisland (part 2): So yeah, she probably us...

2010-02-27T10:44:44.536-08:00

@gus/wpbisland (part 2):

So yeah, she probably used you. But I wouldn't think she did it consciously. She might have loved you very dearly and feel horrible for doing those things. Yet she cannot stop it.

You'd better feel bad about her, and keep your arms open if she comes running back, and maybe hope she does, at least for her own sake. It's hard. Maybe don't give her everything, but I know that if my daughter were ever in that situation, I'd like to know there's one schmuck out there who would try to help her, even if only a little. Someone who would treat her with respect, and give her a hand. Not necessarily someone who would screw up his life for her. Sure I'd prefer that over hers, but I just would like to imagine there'd be guys who would at least do *something* instead of ignoring her like the plague and curse, and do all that in spite of all the troubles she gives them.

There has to be that sort of guys, or no one will help them.

So thanks for having done that. You can feel proud of that, even if you feel ashamed of having been used. At least you were open, kind, and helpful.

And if you get some nice memories out of it, then it might have been worth it anyway, no?

@gus/wpbisland: I agree with you, things can be p...

2010-02-27T10:40:29.032-08:00

@gus/wpbisland:

I agree with you, things can be pretty damn sad. And I think G. has the same issues. Meaning: she doesn't really try hard enough to get out of it. She's OK with the drugs, it's not that big of an issue. It's mostly recreational, not worse than some of my friends, and not at a worrying level of consumption, nor a huge financial hole.

But the job itself, she doesn't really give it up. She has ups and downs, gives up for a while, goes back to it, then studies very hard and finds other jobs, and goes back to it again. Like other commenters said, if we were in love we would do anything we can to get them out of there, right?

Reading your comment made me feel a a bit better, because lately I have been feeling like I've been wasting my life, time, energy and money as well on her. Yet I love her, and like you said, it is very sacrificial. I just gave up all of it for not so much in return. Except her, and that's all I really want. But does it really work? It does for now. But will it really, on the long run? Maybe not.

I sometimes think this blog might be giving false hopes for people and luring them into a trap where I've fallen myself, because I want to believe in it...
But on the other hand, things are fine at the moment, and she's really working less. Though still working. And with her working less, she's relying again more on me. Which is fine, except it's impossible to make her stop to want high-quality stuff all the time. She just wants to go out, party, have fun, have drinks, meet people, etc... It's really hard, makes you feel like shit, like a fucking low-life (which maybe I am), and like you're not trying hard enough or you would be able to give her all this without her having to have sex with other people. Right?

Not so sure, honestly. There's just so much a person can do. From what I've read, you went pretty far. I know I did. I know I don't think I could go much further than that. I could go to the point of getting back in touch with family to ask for help. I could find yet another job, another extra shift, another extra remote temping thing. But if that's for her to throw it all away the next week, is that the right way to got?
It's a pretty hard condition, isn't it?

I think she has the desire to stop, as she doesn't like to be treated like shit by clients. Or for the ones who treat her nicely, she doesn't like that it's a condescending relationship. She doesn't like the power of the agencies. The power of the whole model. The power of the job over her. But fuck, she likes the power of the money. The power it gives to her, to buy stuff, go out in bars we wouldn't go to otherwise. Go to good places because she sometimes wants great food.
It's a shame really, because we can be so freaking happy with almost nothing. We had the best times during periods when we were low on cash and budgeting a lot.

I don't think she really does drugs to numb herself. She might do it sometimes, and might have done it in the past. I know she did when she met me, because she said she didn't want to think of me on the job, and she needed it afterwards as well to relax and not feel guilty all the time. I know she did it when she worked for more sleazy agencies, had to sleep with her bosses and things like that. She needed drugs to mingle, be part of the thing. You don't feel used anymore, you're part of the party. Same difference if you ask me. Woman empowerment in this situation is just a fucking smoke-screen to make them feel better about themselves, think they have the control. Yeah they do: they can just leave. But the money is stronger than that.

I tried to help my gf for 2 yrs. I was in love wit...

2010-02-24T08:24:08.199-08:00

I tried to help my gf for 2 yrs. I was in love with her and so she thought she was in love with me. College, doctor, medicine for rehab, housing, food, gas, insurance, bought her a car. Literally i supported her 100%. My expectation, go to school, use the college tutors, get a part time job to stay busy. She dropped out or never made a concerted effort. i took her back time after time. i even helped her re-establish a relationship with her father. I assisted her mother with a down payment for a home so she could avoid growing old in a trailer.
Was this enough to help her see that life can be powerful with an education and avoid being controlled by men, money, and drugs? No.
She was either too lazy to follow my advice and would have a "f*** it" attitude to give up, or she kept using and could not pass a drug test.
I was working 6 days a week to support her, more than any man ever had done for her. Even more than her father. Why? Because real love is sacrificing. Real love makes you do things you wouldn't normally do. Which is what i did and she didn't, and I was not going to make her do anything that she did not want to do.
I tried to assist her to become empowered and independent instead of dependent on me as i did for my children because if something happened to me than she could continue on without me.
What i learned about escorts from her is they are all on drugs on one form or another. They cannot humanly do what they do without drugs. It is a vicious circle. They do the drugs to numb themselves and their conscious. They need money to fuel the drugs of which they need more and more. So to do more clients for more money to buy more drugs for more numbing.
You cannot make people do what they do not want to do.
I know it is a hard life, i was on the streets when i was 16 and i subjected myself to horrible people to survive. So i know life is a cruel bitch, but i worked really hard, got 2 jobs, got myself in school and life may not be fabulous with the loss of the middle class, but it is better than that life.
I wish her the best and told her not to contact me until she got a job, then i would know she is serious about life and me. I don't think she will make it because she doesn't have the burning desire to hate that world with disgust and run from it so she can have something better. I listened to a guest speaker that had lived on the streets and was now attending Harvard, Lalita Booth. She tells audiences that when a person makes a decision to succeed, anything is possible. That made me realize that my gf didn't really WANT college, want a job, want a different life, want different friends. The desire was not there.
It is all very sad to me and am beginning to feel it was a great big waste. I think at times she did try but i also realize that at other times she took advantage of my good will.

2010-02-24T08:18:46.920-08:00

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@H Thanks for the advice. Its been an interesting...

2010-02-16T19:37:58.012-08:00

@H

Thanks for the advice. Its been an interesting ride. We just got back from Mexico which I wasn't really excited about though it wasn't so bad. It messed with me a bit, the mind tricks etc, seeing all these real couples that have been married for 20+ years, newly weds etc. then us??? 3 months strong, Wierd.

Now being back I'm accepting everything more and more, its been easy for me to get angry with her, which isn't right which I need to curb. I ask things I don't want to know and use it against her sometimes, then she tells me to much etc. I guess is best to try to keep it comp. separate???

Anyway she's stopping in June %110 percent. At this point I love being with her, she tells me she loves me and is really emotionally towards our relationship. I was gonna cancel Mexico and told her week before we needed to slow down and take a step back and she really wasn't having it, cried, begged me to stick by her etc.

I don't think I love her, but if things change I think I can. I really care for her and want to be there for her unconditionally.

Its hard for me to be faithful to her right now though she will prolly freak if she found out I was ever with another girl. Which is hard for me to understand at the moment.

I'm trying to make this work, I see her everytime shes available and she dedicates alot of time just for us which is comforting. She's a special girl deep down. I'm just worried about her big dreams with the money she is gonna leave with (a bit naive). She says she learned alot from her $$$ clients and is gonna use this money and turn it into something w/her Mom (whom has no idea, dad too). I don't want to shatter her dreams though I'm the voice of reason in the relationship a lil. Like moving out of he 2k a month apt and finding a part-time job come june etc.

She has really changed alot since we meet. Its what she wants and I have been there to push her a lil. She can only do it herself though I feel if stick around it will be worth it in the end. Not sure if I can hang on though. As you know some nights are tough, very emotional skewed thoughts, drunkness etc.

I'm not trying to be some savior or anything though I think if I would leave he she might fall off the deep end?? My sister caught wind of it whom is like my Mom, she has a sixth sense with me and felt something was up and asked me. I couldn't lie and so far she has been very cool about it. Though worried about ME. I was trying to keep this under wraps amongst fmaily and friends, ppl in general. Small world you know.

The minds trick though. Just who's who?? Maybe someone close to me was her client or is??? WTF. I might need therapy after this.

Thanks for getting back to me.

T

And then follow with: http://mgfiae.weblogs.media....

2010-01-30T09:36:38.360-08:00

And then follow with:
http://mgfiae.weblogs.media.infocrumbs.net/2009/03/our-first-encounter-2.html

http://mgfiae.weblogs.media.infocrumbs.net/2009/02...

2010-01-30T09:36:17.952-08:00

http://mgfiae.weblogs.media.infocrumbs.net/2009/02/our-first-encounter.html

This is where I tell the story of how I met her the first time. Doesn't answer everything you want to know, but that's something.

For the rest, well, I need time on my hands to keep writing this blog. Which I really don't at the moment, sadly. It's too bad really, because there are tons of stuff I still want to write and things I want to address.

Later.

@leez: sorry, maybe I misjudged and talked too qui...

2010-01-30T09:32:01.966-08:00

@leez:
sorry, maybe I misjudged and talked too quickly. A bad habit to be defensive. I can discriminate sometimes too, and the fact is that here by default I don't necessarily feel empathize with all of you.

Most of you here, are, after all, customers. Punters. You fall in my "they/them" category. Case in point, you're not necessarily evil, but you drive an industry I wouldn't necessarily condone either, or at least not in the form or shape it exists (especially in the US, but in other countries as well: UK, even Australia or Netherlands though it's legal, Spain, China, etc...).

My bad then if I turned you a bit down. Maybe there's good stuff for you there as well, and I'm glad you saw her again and paid for your session but not for sex.

Hope it works out well.

@T: Quite an intriguing story and actually mine ha...

2010-01-30T09:29:03.800-08:00

@T:
Quite an intriguing story and actually mine has some parts that are pretty damn close :)

I'm running out of time for today to reply, unfortunately. Really sorry, because I understand your allusion with playing with fire and I apologize for leaving you hanging when maybe I could have replied earlier and give you some advice. Even though I don't think my advice matters that much. What really matters is simply to know that this happens, that it's possible, and that it can work. But also that there are lots of chances for failure.

One thing before I go though... about her retiring, I wouldn't bet too much on it. Don't want to be too harsh or drag you down, *but* you have to understand that his job, no matter if the girl (or guy) likes it or not, is very powerful. It controls you, for so many different reasons depending on the persons.

Like I said in some posts, there are obvious advantages, and things that actually make it an interesting career path, even if short-lived. Lots of money, some control over what you do, how and with whom. Lots of time on your hands, though not always as flexible as people would say.
You might feel horrible about doing it, but on the other hand you feel empowered by the admiration from your clients. You want to always remain stunning and fit and be adored for that, and the simple fact that you still do the job means you still have the looks.

Then there can lots of side-effects. Drugs are not uncommon, but it's too easy to associate them with that. It doesn't necessarily go hand in hand.

But power can have many faces. It can also be just the fact that you can network with powerful people. Like she said, she goes to top-gentlemen's clubs. Which is true. If you've never done it, once, go out to high-end and slightly sleazy bars. You'll find the most amazing people there... Connections are great. Money switches pockets easily.
G. has a couple of VERY (as in VERY VERY VERY) wealthy clients, for whom just giving out an extra 10K to a girl because they like her and they are regulars and that girl says she needs help. Very tempting.
There are some good guys. Part of a despicable scheme, but overall good. And they don't mind helping, if you ask. And you want to be close to those people.

And chances are, your girl probably likes the job as well, from a sexual perspective. It's hard to tell, because online you will find both external and internal viewpoints, which both defends both sides: that girls do it only for money and that some actually enjoy the job, not just its pros. There's no denying that for some people, the sexual aspect is a factor. Not for everyone of them.
So there's a chance she's a bit of player, by nature or now by habit. There's a chance she likes the scene, all those advantages, and pulling back is VERY hard.
Very hard to suddenly sit at home and think of your utility bills instead of being invited to dinners in great hotels by rich friends.

There were recent studies on why women do really - statistically, that is - prefer older and richer men, even if not attractive. Simply because they - but I guess a similar study could have proven the same thing for men, obviously! - prefer the obvious nice life that the bad one. You prefer to go out, have fun, and not worry. And be adored, and see great people.
You don't want to think bills, fines, work like a dog, take the bus instead of a limo or even a cab. (oh and also, money boosts people's confidence. And people with big egos, though maybe controlling, are statistically more active in bed. More in control. and they don't ask stuff like "was that good for you?" because they think they know it was, and are not insecure - at least not at first - about their performances and their physical attributes...).

The world sucks, huh? :)

Gotta go, probably more later.
Please write back to let me how things are now.

@michael: And yeah, don't push her. It'll ...

2010-01-30T09:14:16.771-08:00

@michael:
And yeah, don't push her.
It'll come out at some point, when need be.

@michael: Thanks for the kind words, and I probabl...

2010-01-30T09:13:30.038-08:00

@michael:
Thanks for the kind words, and I probably understand what you're saying with the filling the blanks bit.

I guess it works like that for many people. First it's "oh by the way I slept with [big number] men". And "ah, yes, there might have been women as well...".
Allusions to being actually more than that, and you having no experience in comparison.
Then you get things that are part of her universe: "come on, let's go to a strip-club!! What do you mean you rarely do that? Oh come on everybody goes to strip-clubs, it's just normal!". Or the classic "No I'm not high on marijuana... huh? ok, I'm high, but that was just coke, and that was a gift from a friend".
Then there are always those mysterious friends. And the mysterious calls. And the stunning outfits where you think "ok, that girl has to be well-dressed 24/7 or she feels bad, or something, because she's meeting me at 5AM and she's fucking stunning!!".

That sort of things...

@rfc11/robert: Regarding whether it's purely l...

2010-01-30T09:09:17.180-08:00

@rfc11/robert:
Regarding whether it's purely lust or not... well time only tells, I guess. I could say that you should know but the thing is, who hasn't been lured into thinking they like someone when they were just having some good and fun time, uh?

I guess you have to dive in to know. It's a risk.

And by the way, I didn't meet G professionally. I never was a punter, not even that much of a player kind of a guy in the first place. I'm pretty much a quiet loser type :)
I explained in one of the posts how we met (trying to dig the URL out right now but ... nevermind). It was mostly through friends. Standard stuff.

I explain in the same posts and other how I came to realize what she was doing (well, I partly say), and then eventually I asked her to just admit it - which she didn't want to, but it's pretty hard to defend when you're in the middle of a night in a hotel room with your new boyfriend and that you get a phone call, argue for a while with whoever, and then try to say that you need to get out for a little while with not so much of a reason. And well, when similar calls have happened before (in slightly less obvious situations though), you connect the dots. SO I sort of forced her to confess it, she finally did and was, well, mostly just angry (and later on embarrassed, but at least mostly pissed off! ;) ). Then I just said OK and that I just wanted to hear it from her, be sure and be done with it, and that it wasn't my business, or at least not at this stage in our relationship (that was fairly new).

I told her I like her a while before that. We had been going out for a little while, mostly just fucking around but feeling pretty connected. We don't always have the same tastes in common and disagree on a shit-load of stuff, but we have quite similar personalities (the former is what she mostly sees and makes her sad, I do care more about the later, I guess).
One night we went out and basically I just said that if we were to keep seeing each other, she needed to know that I was really liking her but couldn't promise anything more at the moment (took me a while, I've always been a very defensive guy), and that I would like to be sure that she's in it for anything else than fun as well or it wasn't worth the effort. Though G. turned me sort of in a more sexual person and had me go through kinkier stuff than I was used too, not really in the bedroom but swingers clubs, group sex and stuff, I am not really a guy interested in just fun. I have a very busy life, and never wanted to waste time with shit like that. I needed at least a sign that there was *something*. She sorted of sighed and said "fine! let's do it", quite reluctantly actually - which hurt quite a bit but at the same time was kind of funny because, well, I know she can be as cold as ice and as closed as a clam-shell when it comes to her feelings, so that was actually a good sign! :).

Things are different for everybody.

Just dive in. And if it fails, so what? You made a bad decision. YOu might get laughed at for falling for your escort. Or you might laughed for your girlfriend being an escort. Well it's nothing compared to haven't met anyone that matters to you by the day you fucking die.

@leez: Well, I don't know, from what I read i...

2010-01-30T08:53:53.014-08:00

@leez:

Well, I don't know, from what I read it doesn't really sound too serious, just purely sexual at this point.
That being said, it's up to you, see her again, see how it goes.